Normally I am pretty even tempered and was going to start my first post with all of my general impressions of facebook (the good and the bad), then I came across a lot of articles about divorce on facebook. I thought to myself, "why not post something a little more extreme to catch the readers attention from the start?"
Before I myself joined facebook I had heard many stories of the drama that goes on in a relationship because of a comment or status change that is posted for many people to see. In all of these cases though it was just a dating relationship, heart breaking but not devastating. I am just recently getting to a stage where a majority of my friends are married so I have not yet witnessed marriages being broken up either because of or even through facebook. Frankly I had never thought about it I assumed that was a private and sensitive enough thing that most people would not discuss it over a public domain. Apparently I was wrong. Google "facebook divorce" and you will find 12,900,000 results. A majority of these results are articles and research on the new cause of divorce, Facebook. Whether or not it is a cause or just an outlet to easier track whether your spouse is cheating or not could be debated. I would argue that it could be both. With the social network so easy and free as facebook makes it there are most likely some people who are not as committed to their marriage as they would otherwise be because it's easy to have another relationship. In many cases though it might actually save a bad relationship from going on longer when people so freely discuss their personal life and relationships, even if the relationship is an affair. I personally think it is tactless and immature to handle relationships over facebook especially your marriage. Get a little courage and talk face to face, so many problems could be solved or even avoided if we took time to really understand someone and keep our personal life just that, personal. It's too easy to publish words that you might actually be thinking but don't actually mean.
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I totally agree with what you say. People really need to just talk to each other instead of handling their relationship on facebook (of course I am saying this on a blog so I am not sure how much better that is ha ha)!
ReplyDeleteIt continues to amaze me how face to face verbal communication is being replaced by facebook and other forms of technology. That is no way to live!
ReplyDeleteI think there is definitely a place for technology as an assistant to relationships and for making your opinions known (like on this blog, Kasse) but it is for just that, assistance.
ReplyDeleteGreat post, I like your topic. I will say I find facebook to be helpful (it allows me to communicate with others I wouldn't normally talk to), but overall, I like your points. Besides that (and maybe this is just me), it seemed like your background made your blog hard to read. Those dots look cool and all, but as I scrolled down my eyes would stick with them, and I'd loose my place. Plus, I can't really read anything written in gray.
ReplyDeletebit worried by people breaking up on facebook. if you're stupid enough to get caught cheating on facebook, you've got some serious intelligence problems.
ReplyDeleteNothing's official unless it's Facebook official
ReplyDeletethanks for the pointers AJ.
ReplyDeleteWow, I never thought of that aspect of divorce. I'm planning on receiving a masters in marriage and family therapy. We often talk about why divorces occur and what are the biggest reasons for divorce. I can't wait to bring up facebook and see what my professor knows and how many are affected by it!
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